"May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears" ~Nelson Mandela

Category: Midlife

True Belonging


What is true belonging?

I spent most of my pre-40 life looking for a place to belong – a community, friends-for-life, people who wouldn’t move, or leave, or disappoint, or disapprove; that wasn’t based on my attendance or a system of belief, my appearance, my ability, my loyalty, or my ______________ fill in the blank.
Somewhere, Someone(s) who felt safe.

Until I realized that this place, these people do not exist. And not because there aren’t beautiful people out there.
But truly, the only place or person I can truly belong to, is me.

“Belonging so fully to yourself that you’re willing to stand alone is a wilderness — an untamed, unpredictable place of solitude and searching. It is a place as dangerous as it is breathtaking, a place as sought after as it is feared. The wilderness can often feel unholy because we can’t control it, or what people think about our choice of whether to venture into that vastness or not. But it turns out to be the place of true belonging, and it’s the bravest and most sacred place you will ever stand.” ~Brene Brown

Whoah. Backup Brene. This is some scary stuff.

But that last bit, the place of true belonging – the bravest and most sacred place you will ever stand.
That’s what I am after. That’s a journey (scary, uncertain, and sometimes wild) worth embarking on.
But, THIS is where the Magic happens.

If you read my story, you may remember the part where I mentioned that I had lost my song, quite literally. I had come to a place where I was so crippled by fear, that I could no longer use my voice. So, when I speak of belonging, it is my greatest honor to hold space for those who are willing to face the fears and challenges to truly belong to themselves, and rediscover their song.


Searching? Hoping? Knowing there has to be more?

I’m here. Let’s chat.

What if there was a place for you? 
Are you looking for deeper connection? A circle of women who truly listen, a time for every woman to be seen and heard.
Not that an occasional dance-party or happy hour with friends isn’t a hoot, but what if there was a place for you?

Contact me for more information on our Women Empowerment Circles.

Second Spring

Japanese Cherry Blossoms in Springtime

Menopause – the change of life, midlife crisis, the point of no return.
What are some of the other terms you have heard?

Here’s some slang words: menopostal, mental pause, men-o-pause.

Funny?

Here’s a special definition from the urban dictionary: “A special time in a woman’s life when they can’t have babies anymore. They get hormonal, mean, rude, short-tempered, angry, and awkward. Bad time for teenagers to live with their moms.”

Wow, no wonder this is a such a dreaded time in most women’s lives.

Big thanks to Dr. Anna Cabeca, who introduced me to the idea of the Second Spring during the Menopause Relief Summit.
Dr. Cabeca shared from her international studies, that the Japanese have very little or minimal PMS or peri-menopausal symptoms.
They use a word for the time of no more periods, that past reproductive time or menopause, called “konenki” – which means second spring.
What would it be like to breeze through menopause into our second spring?
I’m in, my friends. I’m owning it.
This is my second spring.

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